Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Are You a Thoughtful Person?


I'd like to think that I am a thoughtful person but in truth over the past few years under the pressure of work and family and everything else that comes along I think I have lost touch with my thoughtfulness. I went to lunch yesterday with a group of my best girlfriends whom I have know since junior high school. It was my "best friend" Danette's birthday and we got together to celebrate.


Here we are in all of our "creeping up on 50" glory. Danette is the beauty at the center of the table in the black shirt. She makes sure we all do her birthday justice. As we sat down to lunch one of my friends Janie, had brought everyone a small party gift. Mine was this little blue bird of happiness nestled in a tiny straw bed with a darling little note that says happiness on it. What a thoughtful and loving gesture that was, it made everyone's day a bit brighter, why don't I do stuff like that anymore. I make excuses for my lack of interaction and participation in life because of my ridiculous overindulgence in work but in reality I am making a poor choice in neglecting some of the most important things in life, friends and family.



I'm making a pledge to myself to make more time for the good things in life and to be a more thoughtful person. Thanks Janie, your little birdie lit up my day.

7 comments:

Linda Merrill said...

Lord, I hate those moments... the ones where you realized you should have - and could have - done something thoughtful, but didn't step out of yourself enough to actually do it. One of my best friends is a recent widow, has a 5 year old boy to raise alone, her job is slowly imploding due to budget cuts, there was no life insurance on her late husband, her house needs tending than she cannot handle alone and can't afford to pay someone else to do. Yet, she takes the time with her son to make handmade Valentines for everyone in his class, she baked up a storm for our local interfaith council Easter food baskets for needy families, she buys little thoughtful gifts for people all the time - nothing extravagant, just little baubles. On top of that, she looks fabulous and just lost 25 lbs. I'm beginning to totally hate her actually! No, really, she's inspiring.

vicki archer said...

We can all do better when it comes to thoughtfulness - you are not alone. This is a great post and a great wake up call for all of us. I am afraid work is all too consuming for many of us - I am guilty as charged on that count too. xv

Lisa said...

Precious!

Tricia - Avolli said...

I am always humbled by people like your friend and Linda's friend. Are they born that way? They make it seem so effortless and natural. Thank God for people like them. I will strive to be more like that too!

Tricia - Avolli

katiedid said...

Sigh....I find this is so true for me at the moment as well. Starting a business, running a family and household, and then the blogging....it all takes a toll. And I have such great friends and family too...they deserve better.

Sanity Fair said...

This is a nice reminder - and not just to think but to ACT on those thoughts! Speaking of, I can't wait until your Design Director of Bedding comes out. It's on the book list!

The Cape House said...

This is a beautiful post. I do try to be thoughtful, but only achieve success part of the time. It's a work in progress. Thanks for the reminder!